One of the most powerful questions we can bring into a relationship is simple — and humbling:
“What if I’m wrong?”

Not because we are wrong,
but because starting from the assumption that our understanding is limited
opens the nervous system, softens the ego, and allows genuine connection to emerge.

When I walk into a conversation — especially a crucial one with a partner —
I try to remember that my facts, interpretations, and emotional narratives are partial.
They are a map, not the territory.

Holding my perspective lightly doesn’t make me weak.
It keeps me agile.
It keeps me available —
to new data, to nuance, to my partner’s lived reality.

Rigidity in the mind shows up as rigidity in the body.

If my shoulders are tense,
my breath shallow,
my tone sharp —
that’s usually a sign I’m protecting being right
instead of protecting the relationship.

So instead of entering a dialogue to defend a position,
try entering it to explore together.

Not a monologue.
A mutual discovery.

Practice:
Before your next hard conversation, pause.
Take one deep breath.
Ask yourself:
“Am I entering to prove… or to understand?”

Flexibility — cognitive, emotional, and somatic — is the hallmark of real strength.